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The Happiest Times of Your Life

By: Mike A

It is always nice to take a step back and think about some of the happiest times of your life. It doesn't matter how old, you can always reflect on these moments because they never slip away from your memory. These times could be specific experiences or feelings that you felt which spark kind memories which can soothe any pain and rescue a long lost smile.

For some these memories might be the first time they met their one true love. A time when nervousness met excitement and words came out jumbled. We have all had that experience where our heart is going to jump out of our shirt because we are so happy and so excited to be with that one person.

A wedding day is also another day which people might consider one of the happiest times of their lives. On this day promises are shared with your loved one and the entire day revolves around you and them. On this day of complete celebration worries and pressures of life are left far behind, and memories are forever sketched in your heart.

The day a first born is welcomed into the world is of course a very special event. This is the day your life changed forever. Prior to this day your life was all about supporting yourself and significant other, but things change completely. Your life becomes all about making the little one smile and making life easier for your spouse. It was this day when a new meaning of love slipped into your life.

Taking time to think about these moments is a way for the old to laugh and the young to smile. It doesn't matter what stage of life you are in, taking a little time to reflect on some of the happiest times of your life just might relieve some stress and give direction for your future.



Does Dating After Divorce Help?

By: James Walsh

One of the best ways to come out of the rut and forget the bad memories is to start a new relationship with a new individual. This will help you get intimate and personal with someone else and act as a soothing balm to your own hurting soul.

But how exactly can one get into another relationship after divorce? The ideal and quickest solution to find another soul-mate after a messy separation is to start dating again. There are many online services that can help you get in touch with other people looking for partners. You should also try some dating and singles clubs where you may get to meet a person you like and can take the relationship further.

Dating after divorce is not like what it was when you were single and young. With time, your expectations change, you become experienced and mature and your priorities undergo a transformation. While earlier you may have looked for romance and chemistry in a relationship, after divorce you mostly want to use your brain instead of your heart while zeroing in on a new life partner. It is a case of “once bitten, twice shy” and you want to be very careful in making your choice.

The following points will help you date successfully after getting divorced and get your life back on track again with a new relationship.

Give Yourself Time to Recover

Divorce generates feelings of hurt, resentment and rejection. You feel wounded and defeated. It is very important after divorce to give yourself time to heal and bounce back before you start dating again. What actually happens is that post-divorce, you fortify yourself emotionally. You are wary of new relationships. You do not want to open up to new people and want to remain reserved and circumspect.

You develop a tendency to run away from individuals who even in the slightest remind you of your ex-spouse. This is not an ideal condition to go out looking for new healthy relationships. You should give yourself enough time after divorce to recover emotionally and allow feelings of hurt and betrayal to subside.

Keep Your Dates Away from Your Kids

Be careful who you bring home to meet the kids. Initially, you will meet many potential partners and continue to date some of them. Things will not go much further with most before you finally manage to find the right individual. Introducing your every date to your kids will confuse them totally as they won’t have any idea what to expect. There will be too many strangers coming in and going out of their lives.

Children are sensitive and emotionally insecure. You should carefully shield them from the ups and downs of your relationship with potential life partners. Otherwise, the whole dating process can give rise to resentment and consternation in your kids and they may turn rude with you and your friends.

Let Go of the Past Relationship

When you divorce a partner, it is essential to wipe the slate clean. Regardless of how bad things were in your marriage or how angry or guilty you feel about your ex-spouse, you should prepare to forgive and forget and move on in life. This is the best way to save yourself from negative feelings and depression.

Same way, you should be willing to overlook the past life of your potential partner and accept her or him as he or she is, with kids, financial status, liabilities and so on. Both you and your friend should be willing to de-link your own selves from your past and begin your new martial life looking toward a bright future.

Be Discreet and Selective

After divorce, you should never be in a hurry to jump headlong into a new relationship. Keep in mind that you cannot hurry love. You should take your time and get to know the potential partner as a friend first. Be discreet. Don’t get dazzled with outer appearances or gifts that may be showered on you.

You should try to size up your friends through the mind’s eye and judge them as a person, such as their strengths and weaknesses and what you like and dislike about them. It is very important for you to be very clear about what you are looking for in the relationship and what your expectations and hopes are if dating eventually leads to a walk down the aisle.

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Tips on Writing Personal Ads and Emails for Online Dating

By: Alan

A lot of people use on line dating services to find their ideal dates and search for potential partners. When you register online, the first thing you need to do is write a dating profile or a personal ad.

What should you keep in mind?

An on line dating profile is the first thing a person reads about you before deciding to make friends with you or add you to their friend’s list. If your profile is not appealing, your chances of getting responses would be very minimal. While you must be honest about the profile facts, you should also make it attractive. So it is always well worth it to invest a little more thought and time into creating an engaging profile.

Create a unique and distinctive user id

Your nickname is the first thing a prospect will see about you, on the on line dating site. So, when registering on the dating web site, it is important to create a memorable and unique user name. While making sure that the id is unique and appealing, you must also ensure that it reflects a part of your personality since it gives a good hint about what type of personality you have.

To get unique ideas for on line dating ids, think about your personality or interests. For example, if you like rock and roll, you might consider “KingofRock”. Using humor is always a good idea and makes your name easy to remember. For instance if you like rock climbing, you might consider “MountainGoat”. Use similar ideas to get a unique user name. However, ensure that you do not sound desperate and avoid keeping names like “INeedAHusband” or “LonelyinLA” as those are a turnoff.

Write an attractive headline

When writing a personal ad for on line dating opportunities, remember that the headline is the first thing a person will see. So make sure that it is compelling and makes users want to read the rest of the ad. Find a unique way to introduce yourself. Don’t write common introductions like “I am Sarah, 28 years old and I live in New York”. That is too tardy. Write something interesting or even intriguing without being a put off. For instance, you can write “I have kissed too many frogs to expect them to be princes”. Be confident and don’t apologize for resorting to personal ads to find dates, like so many do. Don’t start by writing “I usually don’t do this” etc.

It is not easy to come up with inventive lines for on line dating ads. So if you are not getting anywhere, pick lines from your favorite song or movie. That would give someone a good insight into you. But try to stand out from the rest. That is the best way to attract attention.

Post a good, clear picture on your on line dating profile

It is said that over 75% of people browsing through on line dating profiles look for pictures of prospective dates. If the profile does not have a picture, or has an unclear photograph, people usually pass it over for a profile with a more attractive picture before they begin to read it. It is not surprising then, that profiles without pictures do not receive many responses. However, when you do post a photograph, make sure it is a decent photo and not a body part or a skimpy picture. A clear front shot with a smile works best. Also ensure that you are not with somebody else in the picture as people will tend to avoid you not knowing who you are with.

Ensure the test is spell-checked
for errors

What you write on your profile should be error free. This effort will be valued by anyone who values intellect as a key consideration for choosing an on line dating partner.







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